Allan Toniks on dating Irene Ntale, co-parenting with 2 baby mamas

Toniks, born Allan Ampaire, has two children (one of five years old and the other is nine) from the two women. But, according to him, he had no choice in the reproduction process. That’s the reason he believes his baby mams wouldn’t make good wives.

“They failed,” he said when he was asked why he wouldn’t marry them yet they “passed the first exam” of having children with him.

“In my opinion, I respect women who are forward thinking, who are not short-sighted... Every child is a gift, but a lot of these situations are problematic. By the time you start seeing the gift, you've gone through a lot of ups and downs, so... most of these situations are never the guy's choice,” he went on.

"So, anyone that can do that is no way in hell... that I could take someone like that seriously in the long run... so, we'll be cool with co-parenting... cool with everything else, but... me and you... it's not possible [to get married]. Not at all.”

Asked about how he feels about co-parenting, the Urban R&B singer said: "When you are dealing with those two people, you see a difference. Things are easy or complicated depending on one's character, and one's values and one's upbringing and who the person is. So, I can't say it's something that can be all the way easy or all the way difficult... so, it simply depends on the individuals.”

The ‘Baby Language’ singer thought that becoming a father would make him feel like the biblical Abraham, but reality hit differently.

"... of course, before you think maybe you will suddenly feel like you are father Abraham or some shit... [laughter]... but it's just normal,” he said.

“But like I said, your experience will depend on whom you are dealing with... one.. was more stressful than the other... because people are just different in the way they think. Their motives, the circumstances under which those particular kids were born... different individuals with different agendas... different ways of looking at things, so it's not a one size fits all.”

The ‘My Miss’ singer has not shared his children or baby mamas on social media and he says it’s because he values their privacy.

“Why should I?... I see no reason to. I respect the privacy of people involved... I might be a public figure but that doesn't mean automatically that everyone I deal with is okay being a public figure,” he argued.

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"It's within their rights to have a peaceful life… Some of us have to accept the negatives that come with being famous... But why put that on someone who has no choice?... It's better that way, for the kids to grow up in a normal environment.”

Handsome men are picky?

Toniks believes marriage is an endeavor that requires utmost commitment, so people should not just jump into it.

“Who told you that? Who told you?” he responded when he was asked why handsome men like him rarely get married.

“I'll marry when I want... I believe when it's right, it's right... I believe they (handsome men) also get so many distractions... Marriage is a very serious commitment, for anyone, regardless, it's not just handsome men... laughs…” he said.

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“Maybe they (handsome men) are picky, that's why... They are so picky that they keep thinking they want something better... they first be alone for long before deciding, this is the one... Much as they say marriage is very complicated; sometimes I think it's about finding the right person. A person who'll make you feel like it's not complicated because it shouldn't be... it should not be hard... I believe if you are with the right person, it shouldn't be hard.”

Toniks never thinks about marriage because he doesn’t see how it would positively change his life.

"Actually it's one of those things I never think about... I never think about it. I'm thinking about many things but it's never one of them.... there is nothing driving me to it…” he claimed.

"How will marriage change my life for the better, in any way?... maybe I haven't met anyone who has made me think of that.”

Irene Ntale

Because of seeing them together, some people believe the singer Irene Ntale and Toniks are dating.

“There has never been any relationship between me and Irene Ntale, except friendship, of course... Irene and I are friends... we don’t hang out as much lately, but... before lockdown we used to hang out a lot and we had a mutual friend, Ray Signature, and he has done a lot of work with Irene and is a very good friend of hers, and we used to hang out a lot,” he said.