Benefits of checking in
Checking in with your partner is so important for building a healthy and long-lasting relationship. It’s easy to get caught up in personal business and leave the relationship to take its course without being fully present.
Assuming you know your partner so well carries a degree of error and misunderstanding in the long run.
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Asking these questions to check not only puts you up to speed with how the relationship and your partner are doing, but it also helps improve open communication, provide emotional support, strengthen bonds, and make conflict resolution easier.
This results in actually growing together and being on the same page as you both personally grow and the relationship progresses.
Here are six questions to check in with your partner
- What is working well? What needs to be improved?
- Is there anything you are struggling with at the moment, and how can I support you?
- Is there anything you have been missing in the relationship lately? (This could be conversations, intimacy or space for yourself, etc)
- Are we happy with the distribution of responsibilities or tasks?
- Is there anything about me or us that has upset you lately that I have missed?
- Do we currently support each other's goals and values?
It is important to listen, keep an open mind, and avoid taking an issue personally while checking in. Focus on getting the best out of the interaction for both of you and the relationship.
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Create a comfortable time and space to have these check-ins. Some people might be comfortable with weekly check-ins while others might find monthly check-ins more comfortable.