Many opportunities for having memorable lovemaking are missed in planning and thinking about how to have hot sex. This is because the simple things can be uncomfortable sometimes. But really, hot sex is often a reward for getting through some of this discomfort.
1. Catch the moment
Don't let moments of attraction and desire slip away because they show up at inappropariate times. This is one moment you will not regret following your body or heart.
Take the risk, send that text, send everyone away (and tell them you want to have sex with your partner if it is the right audience. Seriously do it, some people just don't know when to leave, right?). How much trouble can you get in? Even if you do, it will most probably be worth it.
2. Direct eye contact
Maintain eye contact. It can be awkward and uncomfortable but keep eyes on each other. If you feel like closing your eyes to distract yourself, don't. Look somewhere else but keep them open. If you are holding eye contact better than your partner, take the opportunity to talk to them or bring their eyes back to you. It encourages trust, relaxing, connection and being in the moment.
Yes, it can be intense. It will most likely slow things down. Keep your eyes on each other until you physically can't control it.
3. Talking (dirty)
Exchange the "trial moans" and "fake moans" for talking. It might be odd, but talking and using dirty words sometimes strikes the right chords. Say what feels right in the moment, whether it is a compliment or question. Keep it sincere until it naturally ebbs off. Don't worry about saying the wrong thing, it's impossible at this point.
4. "You"
Make everything about "You". "You make me feel wonderful" instead of "that feels good". Make your partner the source of everything you are feeling. Say it often.
5. Making noise
Be selfish with your pleasure. Although having to keep your voice down can be hot in some situations, blessing your partner with your voice can be just as hot. Try being more vocal and make some noise. If you don't usually do it, it will be even better.
6. Keep a piece of clothing/accessory on
Leaving on a necklace or shoes or going commando (for men, instead of living on socks) brings a certain level of excitement to the bedroom. While being completely naked shows you at your most vulnerable, remaining with an article from your outfit can bring that "other version" of you into the mix.
Takeaway
Hot sex is a mixture of intimacy, fun and excitement. Just like fun and excitement it can come from doing things you have not done before and letting go.