What celebrity 'beef' teaches us about breakups

Celebrity feuds are public spats over personal differences, conflicting beliefs, or professional competition. They are typically fueled by fans and the public for entertainment value and social commentary.

These feuds share similarities with conflicts and disputes we face in everyday life with less attention.

When friends or partners have a fallout, public attention can fuel the dispute instead of encouraging repair leaving long-lasting damage.

Here are some lessons on how to handle a personal conflict with a friend, partner, relative, or colleague.

Don't make the dispute public

Increasing publicity can attract the wrong attention as people look for drama rather than helping you out. Even close friends and family can invite more harm than good.

You may receive validation and comfort but the only way to have absolution or closure is to talk it out with the involved party.

Whatever attention you receive during the dispute will fade but you will live with the real consequences of the fallout.

Don't post about the breakup or conflict

When we're hurting, social media offers an immediate outlet to get other people to comfort us or to express our feelings.

However, this is simply a speck of content in the ocean of social media content. You will give people entertainment value without getting what you need.

You may also receive negative feedback which will make your situation worse.

This may also ruin any chances of you making up.

Avoid opinion

You don't need anyone's opinion on your relationship or conflicts. If you do, you should share it with trusted people or professionals.

Even though commentators may give insights into your issues, they don't know the full story. You are likely to be misled into making bad or worse decisions.

Don't be afraid to make up

When your business goes public, you can feel pressured to keep up with the image you have created.

If you feel like making up is possible, reach out and settle your problems. You don't have to apologise or explain to the public.

Everyone makes bad decisions when they are heartbroken and have a phone.

Ignore further commentary

Unlike fans who can bicker about public figures and move on, personal conflicts attract close friends and family into your issues for a long time.

There can be picking of sides, ridicule for making up, and follow-up queries on the dispute.

Don't allow their perspective to influence your decision or feelings. This can be challenging but find support that is beneficial to what you want.

Takeaway

Public feuds and breakups generate attention which can be harmful to the individuals involved.

They can damage relationships, reputation, and health. Most of the time, the positive aspects of these public disputes are not worth the negative impact.