Chemistry is essential at the start of a relationship. It is different from attraction and compatibility.
It's that irresistible spark that draws you to each other. Trust, similar goals, respect, and friendship are great for a healthy relationship but it can feel cold with chemistry.
It sounds like something that happens naturally and can't be created. Well, that's true. But you can help chemistry grow with these tips.
Read on for the ways you can create that chemistry and don't miss these 6 simple moves that make sex hotter.
1. Stop Overthinking
It is important to stop overthinking each interaction. When you get wrapped in your thoughts, it is hard to enjoy yourself or be present with anyone. Most times it is obvious to the other person that you are not attentive which kills opportunities to bond.
To be fair, you might have legitimate worries, but he will not know and may take it personally.
Avoid sharing personal tragic stories during this time.
Take each moment with him as it is, and embrace each interaction with an open mind. It will make you more relaxed and able to communicate in a personal manner.
2. Attention To His Body Language
Nothing will make him lose interest and shut down like feeling ignored. Keep your eyes on him and your ears out for what he's saying.
Show him that you're invested, and watch his facial expressions, you'll be able to catch what he is feeling and what he feels toward you.
When he reaches out for physical contact, return his gesture.
This will make him comfortable with opening up for deeper connection.
Keep your body language open, light, and engaging.
3. Stop The Comparison
Comparison is the killer of joy. Comparing your current relationship to previous ones with stop you from discovering or feeling chemistry with your current man.
You might have had great chemistry with an ex but that doesn't mean you will never feel that way with anyone else.
Show up for yourself and the guy you have chosen to give a chance.
4. Alone Time
Spending time with each other is essential for developing chemistry. Jumping into group dates or family gatherings can damage the chances of finding that chemistry.
You cannot explain to other people what he means to you when you have not taken that alone time to find out.
5. Give Him Space
This doesn't mean finding things to pass time until you can be with him. Use the time away from each other for individual pursuits.
He will miss you and you will miss him in return. Do your own things and invest in other relationships in your life. When you get with him again, give him your attention.
It creates a beautiful relationship contrast of independence and genuine care and desire.
Despite all this, it may not work. While you can do things to inspire chemistry, you can't force it where it isn't. Be honest with him and yourself.