Let us put an end to the heartbreak bleeding all over the internet from rejected marriage proposals. Read on for things that should alert you that you might not receive the answer you are hoping for.
1. You’re not yet financially stable
She will say no to a marriage proposal if you, and herself, aren't finacially stable. It might not mean that she doesn't want to get married.
It is simply important to her to focus on a career and have a stable job or source of income before settling down to enjoy marriage and family.
2. She has broken up with you over delayed proposal
Don't propose in the heat of the moment or right after she has told you about leaving because of a lack of commitment from you.
Not only does it come off as insincere, it shows that you did not and don't have a plan to propose.
3. Recent and unresolved issues
A marriage proposal will be rejected if issues of unfaithfulness, distrust, disrespect, among others, are still fresh or have never been addressed.
As an attempt to save a relationship, a proposal will be mercilessly shot down.
4. The marriage proposal isn’t romantic
You decided that her romantic ideas do not apply to you or are not realistic and want to propose in way that you choose.
After all, it is the action that counts. She might have had a granduer expectation and this will cause mixed emotions that result in a 'no'.
If you are not sure of the way to propose, that is not a good sign either.
5. It is a public proposal
If you are planning for a public proposal, brace yourself.
According to "Rules of engagement: A content analysis of accepted and rejected marriage proposals” published online in the Journal of Family Psychology in 2021, of the proposals they studied, those that were rejected, a big audience was present half of the time.
Unless of course, she has expressed positive emotion for a public proposal or it is friends, family.
6. It doesn't feel right
If you have doubts or your intentions and reasons are not sound to you, don't be surprised if she says 'no'. It feels like you have been together for so long "you might as well do it" or your fellow peers are doing it.
You don't know where she stands on the issue of marriage, children, career. There is never a 'right' time especially because she is busy about something, or excessive negative emotion.